Say No to Gossip Campaign!

As to stop gossiping is one (or maybe one :) of my 2011 resolution i will share with all of you a few tips that i found on the website, articles or even from my previous Ustaz or Ustazah, nasihat daripada saudara mara terdekat yang juga kadang kala gossip bersama dan juga base on my own experience. Frankly said i dont consider myself as 'guru' of gossip because most of the time i'll only be the fine listener who maybe add spices, sugar and salt to make it taste better. Allah Ta'ala befirman"Orang-orang mu'min ialah orang-orang yang berpaling dari kata-kata yang tidak berguna." (al-Mu'minun: 3)" (mode sangat insaf!) Allah befirman lagi "Dan apabila engkau melihat orang-orang yang memperolok-olokkan keterangan-keterangan Kami, hendaklah engkau menghindarkan diri dari mereka itu, sehingga mereka membicarakan perkara yang lain. Dan jikalau engkau terlupa karena godaan syaitan, janganlah engkau terus duduk sesudah teringat itu bersama-sama dengan orang-orang yang menganiaya -diri sendiri-." (al-An'am: 68) . (Ampunkan aku Ya Allah aku leka, aku lupa....).

So why do some of us love to gossip? busybody, nosey neighbours, trying to discover the latest happening, melodi and etc.....sebabnya ialah sebab gossip adalah fun di dunia! (tapi bukan akhirat ya, harap maklum)......ila selalu bergurau dengan kawan masa kat uni dulu "nanti kalau kat akhirat nanti awak jadi kayu api bebara, masuk neraka, sila jangan panggil-panggil kita bila lalu titian siratal mustakim ya, sebabnya kita nak concetrate meniti nak masuk syurga" boleh? so here is the tips :-

1. Ingat Neraka adalah sangat sangat panas lebih panas dari cuka getah. :P
2. When someone approaches you and asks if you know so and so or if you know the latest about so and so, try to avoid hearing the gossip in the first place. Quickly praise the person. Say you think the person is nice. Say that you think the person is doing a good job at whatever task. Hopefully, this will stop the gossip train dead on its tracks.
3. Watch out for the places where gossip is more likely to spread, the workplace cafeteria, the workplace pantries, kenduri kawin, kenduri tahlil, housewarming jiran, reunion sekolah lama etc. Also beware of the people who like to gossip the most. When you see a person who is a known gossiper coming, be ready to start the conversation off yourself.
4. Wear a batch saying "I stop Gossiping, Ask Me Why!"
5. Be blunt and begin telling people you do not like to gossip. Yes, this could loose you some so called friends. But do you really want friends who spend their time talking about other people behind their backs? Remember eventually their conversations will be about you, when you aren't around to defend yourself. lepas ni mesti orang kata " dia tu konon nak berhenti gossip, nak nasihat orang konon, solat pun lambat, ada hati tak nak gossip lagi, ingat dia tu bagus sangat ke, kalau dia taknak gossip i ada banyak lagilah kawan yang nak jadi roomate i di Narrr....
6. Bawa bersama ear phone pada mana2 majlis keramaian, dan bila Miss Gossipper datang avoid them seperti pura pura busy
7. .Dont meditate on other fault. "ye dia tu pakai tudung dulu, sekarang dah free hair, apalah nak jadi? Why should you care? kalau betul kamu peduli atas alasan sesama muslim berterus terang and say it to the face. kalau dia terima Alhamdulillah, kalau dia marahlantak dia lah. (ingatkan diri saya juga?).
8. .See the Good In Others. "Dulu dia pernah teman aku beli tiket dekat Pudu balik Gopeng,sekarang ni aku gossip sebab dia beli satria neo, "haiii jahatnya aku, jahatnya aku (ala stacy)"
9. Positive thinking. "Dia tu attention seeker sungguh, kalau becakap bergegar satu taman" as what you dont know this person that you gossiping about ada hearing problem, dia gunaearphone kecik kat dalam tudung, kan dah dosa.
10. If the gossipers will not stop, say something cute,like:

• "You dah ganti tempat Michelle jadi pengacara Melodi?,
• Eh anak you main lipstick youlah, baik you check them out first,
  
• Jomlah kita tanya dia betul ke husband dia belikan dia kereta Porshe kaler merah guna duit haram?
  
• You, boleh tak i tinggalkan recorder i kat sini nanti later2 nanti i dengar you cakap apa....you pegang handphone i ni kejap i tolong orang buat kerja kat dapur.....

P/S : help me to will help you! ingatkan saya kawan!